Archive for April, 2012

A Penny For Luck

April 25, 2012

Dear Roman,

Every so often you’ll say or do something that shows your true character and makes me beyond proud to say I’m your mom. Today was one of those moments. We were at an indoor “play pit” and you were running around and climbing on the foam structures with all the other kids. When I’d finally reached my chaos/noise/stimulation limit I rounded up your sister and called for you. I saw you walk over to me with a look on your face that seemed unsettled. Immediately you said to me, “a baby hit me across my face.” The way you said it I could tell you were really upset.

Me: A baby? What do you mean?

You: Yeah a baby, well I mean a little kid. He was little, maybe a two year old.

Me: That wasn’t nice of him was it?

You: Mom! He hit me! I wonder why he’d do that? I don’t think he was wearing diapers so he must not have been a little baby.

Now I could tell that my blowing off this whole interaction between you and the little boy wasn’t what you were looking for. But I also know you well enough to know that I shouldn’t make silly excuses for the kid like saying, “he must have been having a bad day” or something easy like that. So I took you over to a bench to talk.

Me: You know Roman, I don’t know why that kid would have hit you like that. You’re a really good teacher to younger kids and maybe all that little guy needs is someone to tell him hitting is not okay. You know so next time that happens to you just say, “that’s not okay to hit me.”

You thought a minute and said…

I’m going to give him a penny.

Then you pulled out a penny from your pocket. The same “lucky penny” as you call it that is always in your pocket just in case there’s something you want to buy that costs one cent.

Me: A penny? What? Why?

You: Because maybe he justs needs some luck.

I stopped you just before you started to head over to the little kid to hand him the coin and explained that his parents may not want him handling money since he was so young. But then I told you that your idea was just about the kindest thing ever. And you could tell that I really meant it. I gave you a really big hug and that was the end of the conversation.





April 19, 2012

Dear Roman,

At four and a half years old it take a lot of effort to keep you inspired. I mean honestly by 9am you are bouncing off the walls at home ready for some excitement. Preschool only lasts until noon and after some mid day quiet time you’re ready to go again. It’s just who you are- busy, busy and go go go. If you aren’t on the move then you tend to get into trouble. So I’ve learned it’s better to keep you involved in a lot of activities. And since we live in Washington where it seems to rain non stop it’s sometimes not an option to head outdoors, to the parks or to the beaches. So here’s what your schedule looks like these days:

Karate- I enrolled you in Karate classes when you started coming home karate chopping everything in sight. You would pretend to be a “ninja” not really knowing what exactly that meant and your desire to yell, “hi ya!”  non stop was driving me crazy. So Karate class it was. At first you were apprehensive about the whole idea, but after your first class you were totally hooked. It’s super fun to watch you in action karate chopping a big exercise ball and balancing with yoga moves.  I love that you now have an outlet to let out a little aggression and you’ve stopped bringing that behavior into the home.

Swim- It’s been over a year now that you’ve been in swim class and you’ve made huge progress… very slowly… but huge improvements. Your biggest challenge in swim class is your self doubt. You’re such a perfectionist and worrier so if you think you can’t do something you get stuck in that mindset. Your super patient instructor is constantly trying to give you pep talks. She tells you to say to yourself, “I can do it.” It’s sort of become something we encourage you to say for all aspects of your life lately. She also works on trying to get you to calm down and to stop tensing up when you swim. I laugh when she says that because that’s pretty much been your personality since birth. But more power to her for trying. I really think your biggest accomplishment is going to be the day you jump into the pool and swim completely on your own for the entire session. That day isn’t here yet, but it’s on the horizon. I believe you can do it I just wish you felt the same way!

Soccer- Now soccer class is something that unlike swim comes totally natural to you. You make it look so easy to run and kick and try and score goals. You love the game and everything it comes with- cool coaches, teammates, scoring goals. The best part though is that you go on Saturday mornings so Dad takes you. It’s the best part of his weekend having that time with you. After class you go to a lunch of pizza and frozen yogurt – your favorite combo.

Preschool- Last year you loved preschool, but this year you are constantly telling me that it’s boring. At first I sort of dismissed it thinking you were misusing the word boring. Then when you started saying that over and over I started to dig a little. From my question and answer session I’ve gathered that you’re not much of a fan for sitting in circle time, you don’t think singing songs at music is all that exciting and you’d really rather play with your toys at home vs. the toys at school. You topped off that stellar review with a, “and I think writing is soooo boring.” Oh boy! As your mom I was super concerned. I thought perhaps you needed more out of preschool and you probably do. But also as your mom I know what a tough critic you can be (gee I wonder where you get that). But it’s a good life lesson to know that your whole day can’t all be fun and exciting. Sometimes learning is fun and sometimes it’s… well boring. So I tell you this often and remind you that it’s better to keep an open mind about learning and school. In the meantime I’m on a mission to find some sort of supplemental class that isn’t “boring.”

When at home your favorite things to do are: play LEGOS, read/look through books and watch Curious George. You still like music and making music, but not as much as you used to. I miss it actually. You also aren’t dressing in capes and costumes as much. You’ve kind of moved on from super heroes to Star Wars. Another sniff sniff. You’re definitely growing up faster than I’d like. You ride your bike without training wheels, want to create jumps for your bike and you really want a skateboard. Maybe for your 5 year old birthday.


April 18, 2012

Dear Roman,

For what seems like forever you’ve been asking to go to Legoland. You actually found out about this so called Heaven on earth from a sign at the Lego store about a year ago. At first sight you were mesmerized by the thought that such a place could exist. So from time to time I’d show you video clips about the amusement park  that I found on the Legoland website. Then your cousin took a trip there and came back with photos. Two friends from school returned from winter break with tales from Legoland. Your begging began and didn’t stop until your dad and I realized we’d better start putting a trip together. Spring break seemed like the perfect opportunity.

So we surprised you in the early morning by waking you up from your slumber to tell you we had to catch a plane to San Diego. At first you were a little confused, tired and not sure if what we were saying was real or a dream. Once you realized that we were on our way to Legoland your excitement kicked in and stayed for the entire trip!

We had a blast. A true family vacation- our first to a kid themed local. Upon entry to Legoland the first day I actually think your dad and I were more excited for you. My eyes filled with tears of joy as I watched your face as you took in all there was to see. For two straight days we rode rides and walked the park. You and your dad got a kick out of the Star Wars exhibit. Charlotte liked the Lego safari animals. My favorite was the castle section. We spent our afternoons swimming at the hotel pool and evenings at the beach for a little sand play at sunset before dinner and bed. It was fantastic.

Your prized souvenir has been the Legoland map. You have it memorized and pull it out every single day to study. Making mental notes of the areas you want to go back to on our next visit.